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Kim's avatar

Your post about how images can blind us resonates. I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I observe the “Back in the good old days . . .” phenomenon in so many different contexts. Our distorted memories of the past can definitely limit our appreciation for what is right in front of us. The comment about how terrible Austin has become is funny to me because I lived in Austin from 1996 - 2001 and that’s what people were saying then, too :)

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Trading Places: A Dr’s Memoir's avatar

I learned later than I should have that you can’t expect a partner ( man) to know what you want and need just because you “love” each other.

And I love SZA!

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Lori T.'s avatar

The memoir by the art museum security guard is something I would like to check out. Thanks for the mention. Already 60 holds on 9 copies at the library!

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Kat O's avatar

I never explain this very well, but: I've always said that one component of a healthy relationship is you have to TRUST that the other person will tell you what they need (if they're sad, if they want the last slice of pizza, if they feel like they're doing the lion's share of the housework, whatever). So mind-reading should absolutely not be an expectation in a relationship founded on kindness and good, open communication. You can tie yourself in knots worrying and guessing about someone otherwise.

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Stephen Rutledge's avatar

Thank you!

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Jenny Dudley's avatar

Rich post today. Thank you Austin!

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Angela Beeching's avatar

Thanks for the owl update and in case anyone hasn't seen this sky courting . . .

Here is the courting dance of eagles

https://www.facebook.com/reel/433461418887940/

red tailed hawks, too--start at 4 minutes!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYTFxeLhduU

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